What was my mother thinking buying me the 48 piece candy gift box? I stood in front of my full length mirror, full of chocolate and self-remorse.
My attention focused on my “soft” parts (you know, your stomach that’s not quite as tight as you’d like or biceps that don’t show muscle definition and instead skin sags as pliable as putty.)
Before my eyes could make their way down to criticize my sorry excuse for a butt (it’s as flat as my box of chocolates is empty), I paused.
What was I doing? My body deserved more than this shit talk. I deserved more.
I wondered how I could turn my mindset about my body woes around to give my body the love it and I deserved.
That’s when I saw my calves. They looked defined like a ballerina’s might. When I focused on a part of my body I felt good about, my emotional state became recharged. Suddenly, I felt more womanly and then more confident and strong.
The next time you have one of those, “ugh, is this really what my body is looking like” kind days, try sprinkling some love instead of criticism. Choose at least one part of yourself that you absolutely adore. (Trust me, you have at least one!) Maybe it’s your booty, hair, eyes, or pinkie toe! It doesn’t matter. Identify that part and while looking at yourself in the mirror, proudly say, “I have one kickass ____!” Then reflect on how your emotional state is affected. Do you feel less stressed? Do you feel empowered? Perhaps, you feel more you?
Body confidence isn’t about having the perfect supermodel body. It’s about perfecting your perception of how you see your body, which is entirely mental. When you shift your focus from areas you don’t like to areas you do, you will begin to experience more positive and strong associations with your body. You will begin creating a new mental habit of how you see yourself.
Start identifying the parts you love, and rock that bod, girl.